2008 Was a very stormy year all in all – financially it was a battle as for most. We had to sell a few investment properties and very quickly. For a while it was very rocky and not smooth sailing at all, excuse the pun! It got a little worse. I was being retrenched and unfairly at that. Well, after winning the whole battle which was not only emotionally draining but mentally as well, worse news was on the horizon. I ended up with mumps and whilst at the doctor, he told me as a matter of fact, the test results for the BRACA 1 and 2 testing had come back. This was quite unexpected. At the time I remember being quite alone and unprepared. I had the genes for breast cancer and it was just a matter of time. This felt like a ticking time bomb for me and the biggest wave yet that I had to ride. Kobus was very supportive and held my hand all the way but I had to emerge from the unknown void. The turmoil was taking place within.
It was crunch time and I had to make a decision as to my future knowing that it would affect the lives of my husband and son. By end November 2008 I had the first preventative operation. After surgery and the removal of both breasts, the surgeon told me that there were signs of my tissue already changing. This was a very very painful operation in that one cannot lift ones arms above one’s head. A few months later, after the expansion procedure, I had the second operation where they did the silicone implants.
By February 2009 I had a full hysterectomy. I was taking no prisoners and meant business. My husband and mom-in-law as well as my dad were my incredible support system. A friend in Cape Town sent me flowers and I felt very blessed. Hugh was 4 at the time and very understanding for his young age. He said that he understood and he would rather have me live than brothers or sisters, which was a huge burden off my shoulders. If I took the risk and not had the operations, I would not be here, typing this blog this evening – of this I am very certain. It was definite … I had the necessary preventative measures and we could not have any more children. So it came about that Kobus and I have 1 son. He is an absolute blessing and a joy in our lives. He is humorous and mature for his age and such a little gift from above. He came just in the knick of time and we could not have had our lives pan out any better, had it been planned to a tee.
I can now look back fondly on the past with the knowledge that it all worked out well in the end. After a call from a colleague of Kobus one evening, I sent my CV and went for the interview at one of the biggest shopping centres in Gauteng. More about this next time.